To venturing the unknown is not easy for many people. How many times we avoid and try new things, thinking that could bring us a level of discomfort?
According with Jerry Seinfeld quote that replied as follows “According to most studies, people’s number one fear is PUBLIC SPEAKING. Number two is death. Does that sound right? This means to the average person, if you go to funeral, you ‘re better off in the casket that doing the eulogy” Jerry Seinfeld
And why is that public speaking is number one fear of all? But do you know that even if you are speaking with just one person along, you are practicing public speaking!
The fact is that many people fear and get panic when it come to speak in front of a big audience. For instance I don’t consider myself a Professional Public Speaker, because is not my professional job. I just like to be confidence and ground myself in front of people while I’m speaking to them. It don’t matter if is one or more person.
The fear of speaking that I have back on the days preventing me for doing things I love to do and go places I want it to go. The fear of being rejected hold me back. It was a terrible feeling.
It was while I was working at my former aesthetical job that I learned about Toastmaster Organization, an International Public Speaking Organization. One of the customers suggested me to take a course in public speaking. I listen to her and follow her advise. Not to mention at the moment I felt awkward when she suggested the idea. Now, I AM grateful and thankful for that advise. But then she explain why she suggested it.
Here what she replies:
“Since in other occasion we have discuss about you having fears to speak and further more you have mention that people so asked you -Where do your accent come from? Only for that reason I have suggested the idea”. I understood.
Again she thought it would be a great idea for me to take a public speaking course. Immediately I went home and did my research. While searching on the internet I came across with a Toastmaster club near by me. I contact them and made the first visit to the club. From that point I joined the club. Great move!
I’m glad I did, it has been one of my best decision to made in my life. If I would it known before I would it join long time ago, but it was never too late for my rewards. The fear that I was going through affected my confidence and stop me from doing things that deep within myself I knew I could do. Never again. Since that day I choose the positive side of fear which is courage. I learnt to live a life in courage but not in fear.
To my surprise:
At that first Toastmaster meeting experience, I discovered that, I was not the only one living with fear. I proved myself wrong. That along make me feel good about it. People from all kind of background, professional, business people, homemakers, and others. The fact that a lot of people were riding in the same boat as me, make me feel home at the first meeting. What a great experience!
Since I joined, I have earned a Competent Leader Award and Competent Communicator Certification.
Nothing more but to gained confidence through my experience. Priceless. Not to mention the valuable leadership skills, vocal qualities, enhance a message and how to pay attention while I AM speaking. I have learned.
As a result I Am Grateful.
In conclusion, the best way to master your fears, is facing the fear itself. Eventually you will notice a change and realized that those fears were created in your mind. Only then you will understand that behind our fears is always an opportunity to learn. What a wonderful feeling!
Is never too late to conquer your fears and realized that behind those fears is your treasure.
All is Mind. Mind is All.